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Since our last two posts on the subject of self-appreciation, I have been thinking more about how we see our own value and self-worth. And I am coming to realize that, as human beings, we don’t really value ourselves very highly.

One reason is that most human persons look outside of themselves for a sense of their true value.

You mean from other people mostly.

Primarily, yes. You are almost always searching for validation, for an estimate of your self-worth, through the eyes of other individuals. It all starts with your family environment and what you were taught about yourself as you grew and matured. The family is where the self-perception of your own worth and value in the world begins.

Eventually, that self-perception informs all of our relationships, does it not?

Indeed. And none more so than those in your work environment, where your worth is often calculated in strict monetary terms. “I am paid $30,000 a year for my work and that is how I am valued, not only by the company that I work for, but by the world at large.” Over time, that value becomes your value, the way that you see yourself and the way you allow others to treat you, for good or for bad. “I can only expect to be treated this way because that is all that I am worth.” It is an arbitrary, superficial means of valuing yourself that is set by another individual and as such does not serve you well. And it is certainly no indicator of your true worth, your true value, which always comes from Source. Always.

These beliefs around our self-worth, formed mostly by other people’s opinions, eventually become self-fulfilling, correct? If our thought is creative and we hold beliefs about what we are worth, then we will attract circumstances and relationships that reinforce what we believe our worth to be. That is one reason why it is so hard to us to ask for a raise at work or expect more out of our personal relationships. If we hold a low opinion about ourselves, then we will continue to live the sort of life that reflects that low opinion.

Until you decide you have had enough and you desire a change.

Which means that when it comes to our sense of self-worth, we need to release any old belief systems that no longer serve us and create new ones.

That is a fair estimation of the work that needs to be done.

But we really need to feel it, don’t we? We can repeat positive affirmations to ourselves until we are blue in the face, make inspirational image boards and meditate, but if we are not FEELING it, then what is the point?

You are right to focus on the feeling behind any kind of transformational work that you are doing. As we have said before, words are fine and can get you started, but eventually it is all about vibration, as most things are. What you want to do is seek out the high vibrations, the good feelings behind the words. You are all magnificent creatures in your own right. You have nothing to prove to anyone. So let that idea, and others like it, rise to the surface of your being.

There is a story about the actor Jim Carrey when he was out of work and had very little money during his early years in Hollywood. He wrote himself a check for $10 million dollars, dating it ten years in the future and writing in the memo field, “For acting services rendered.” He kept the check in his wallet as a constant reminder of his goal. He would often drive up into the hills overlooking Hollywood and imagine himself entertaining the world through TV and film. He would return home only when he felt strongly that his dreams of success would come true, even if it took all night.

That is a very good example of what can be done when you set your mind to creating something that reflects your own sense of self-worth. In this case, Mr. Carrey used his feelings and his imagination to create professional success for himself. And he did it by going within. Most often, human persons will start with the outside, looking for an experience that will make them feel a certain way, giving them a feeling of validation. What we are suggesting is that the search begins on the inside. And from there, external experience is created.

So, we kind of have it backwards, don’t we? Feeling precedes experience, not the other way around.

Yes. Professional success, or whatever else you wish to create, is only a reflection of what lies on the inside. Your true value is never found on the outside. It always comes from within because your true value is an inherent part of who you are.

How do we find our own true value then? Where do we start?

By appreciating yourself, by reminding yourself on a regular basis of your own true value. Once again, it is about shifting your focus, this time shifting it from the outside to the inside. Shifting your focus back to who you really are. Yes, you inhabit a physical form at the moment, but the inside, that is where your true self resides. You can look for validation of your worth in the external all day long, with your family, with your friends, with your co-workers, with the people you meet on the street or read about on social media, but all you will ever see is a reflection of what is going on inside of you, the beliefs you hold about your own self-worth and value. If you see yourself as worthless, as having no value, that is what you will see, that is what you will experience on the outside. Likewise, if you go within to seek and affirm the value and beauty of your own spirit, that too will be reflected in your physical experience. So do not look to others to affirm your self-worth for that is NOT where it lies. Inside, that is where you must look. At the spirit that resides within. At the LOVE that resides within. That is where we would have you look for that is where you truly are.

Lovely. I think we will stop there.

Of course. Until next time, then.

Thank you all.

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