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Last time we talked about the importance of appreciation and I would like to continue our discussion on this topic, only this time I would like to focus on self-appreciation.

An excellent idea. Where would you like to start?

I would like to start with the idea that often times we humans do not value ourselves very highly. There seems to be an almost perverse lack of self-appreciation that permeates the physical plane. I realize that the work we’re doing here is about remembering our true, loving nature, but I can’t help feeling sad about this state of affairs.

It is only natural for you to feel sad about the lack of appreciation that human persons express for themselves so much of the time, but as you say, it is part of the work that you are doing, moving towards a remembrance of who you really are. And a very important tool in that work is learning how to value yourselves more, appreciate yourselves more, love yourselves more. The art of self-appreciation vibrates more closely with the vibration of Source than almost any other human trait. The more you can appreciate yourself, the closer you come to remembering who you really are.

Where is the best place to start if we want to develop the art of self-appreciation?

The best place to start is with the words you use to talk about yourself. The story you tell yourself about who you are. Does that make sense?

Yes, of course. Please continue.

First, listen to what you are telling yourself about yourself. Be quiet and listen. It takes concentration to develop this tool, but it is very important that you become aware of what is going on inside of your mind. So just listen at first. What is the tone you use when you speak to yourself? Are you supportive or judgmental? Do you uplift or do you bully? Are your nice, kind and loving or are you nasty, mean and dismissive? Take a look as well at the form your communication takes. What are the words you use to describe yourself to yourself? Are you a “loser?” Are you a “screw-up?” Are you ugly or clumsy or useless or inept or crazy or irresponsible or just plain bad? Do you not live up to your potential? Are you selfish and greedy and manipulative? Do you always disappoint?

My goodness! That is quite a list. To be honest, though, this really is the kind of negative thinking we humans engage in on a daily basis.

And this is only a very, very small list. Judgements and accusations and lies that are meant to hurt and humiliate and degrade.

Why do we say such things to ourselves?

Because that is what you have been taught to do, as your parents were taught and their parents before them were taught. It was believed, and is to a great extent still believed, that this type of constant self-judgement and self-chastisement keeps one on the path of goodness, righteousness and Godliness, and helps to create responsible members of society. 

And yet, that is not the case, is it? I mean, those kinds of statements may actually work to keep people in line, to help keep their behavior within the limits of what is considered acceptable by society, but it does not make people happy, does it?

No, from what we have observed, it does not.

And so, what can we do to help rectify this situation?

We would start with something simple, like positive affirmations. We realize that there are those who do not believe that positive affirmations in and of themselves can ultimately heal the wounds you may have created with your history of negative mind chatter. And we are not suggesting that affirmations alone are the answer to all of the ills of the world. But we do believe that positive affirmations can work as a useful bridge between your negative mindset and the free, natural, positive thinking that will come easily when you open yourself to Source energy.

So, are you talking about something that perhaps Louise Hay would have suggested, like “I love and approve of myself?”

That would be an excellent place to start.

But isn’t that a bit simplistic? Can positive affirmations really help raise our vibration and make us feel better over time?

Considering that you already use affirmations on a regular basis without even realizing, and that most of the affirmations you use are of a negative variety, it would only seem natural, if you wanted to turn your momentum around, to start with something that you already do.

That does make sense.

In truth, it is not about the words at all, but the vibration that the words embody. It does not even have to be words. It can be something visual, it can be a scent, or something you pick up from one of your other physical senses. It can be a song or a painting or a play. Or any type of stimuli, for that matter. The important thing is how it makes you feel. Do the words uplift me, make me feel good about myself, give me a thrill, excite me, relax me, make me like myself, love myself, just a little bit more? That is what we are talking about. That is what self-appreciation is all about. Looking at yourself through the eyes of Source, with no judgement whatsoever, seeing the loving soul at the heart of your human form. That is what you are after, and how you get there, the means that you use, is unimportant, as long as it triggers the vibration of joy and self-love.

So, I’ll give it a try.

That is all we suggest. Appreciate yourself. Value yourself. Love yourself.

Let’s stop for now and continue this discussion next time.

Until next time then.

Thank you all.

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