WHERE WE DISCUSS SELF-VICTIMIZATION
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Today, I would like to talk about our tendency to self-victimize. I realize that this is a topic we’ve discussed in various ways from different points of view over the course of our conversations together, but today, I’d like to address this topic in more detail, even though I’m sure we’ll touch on issues we’ve covered before.
As we have said in the past, repetition of ideas is one of the cornerstones of the work that we are doing together. Repetition leads to remembrance. No one would expect you or anyone else to change their perspective on life after hearing an idea expressed only once. That is possible, of course, in the sense that anything is possible, but generally speaking, the process of remembrance for most humans requires repeated reinforcement. The “metaphysical amnesia” of which we have spoken many times could be compared to a thick, dark veil that hangs over your perception of yourself as well as your perception of the physical world in which you live. By keeping you in a state of forgetfulness, this veil clouds and obstructs your view and keeps you from seeing yourself as clearly as Source sees you. The work that you and all humans are doing right now involves the shedding of this veil one layer at a time, bit by bit, until you arrive at a place of full awakening. For this reason, there is great benefit in exploring the same ideas over and over again until they succeed in wearing down this veil and allowing your true sight to shine through.
Understood.
Now, is there a particular reason behind your desire to explore this topic of self-victimization today?
A relatively minor occurrence, actually. Nothing earth-shattering or life-threatening. What we humans like to refer to as “just one of those things.” In my case, it once again involved a problem with technology and the frustration that it can trigger, a situation that we have discussed in previous conversations. This time, it involved the streaming service that I subscribe to that has provided me with many uninterrupted hours of tennis, my favorite sport. Recently, however, completely out of the blue, my streaming has, for some reason, begun to sputter and freeze, to the point where the tennis matches are unwatchable. I have tried various fixes, but so far, none of them has worked. Now, as I said, we have discussed in the past the issues of anger and frustration that can arise from technological glitches, so we don’t really need to re-explore those. What I noticed today is my tendency to see this kind of problem as something directed at me. It always starts with “Why is this happening?” Then “Why is this happening to me?” Then “Why is this ALWAYS happening to me?” There are any number of variations to these questions, like “What have I done to deserve this?” or “Whose fault is this?”, but basically, this is the pattern that my ego mind follows in this kind of situation. I was present enough to realize what was happening, what I was saying to myself, and I knew that this type of badgering was not going to help the situation, but I couldn’t seem to stop myself.
And so, as a result of these ego-based thoughts, you came to the realization that you were thinking of yourself as a victim. Is this correct?
Yes, in this case, that the Universe or my internet service provider or maybe even a mouse chewing on my TV wires was out to get me or somehow make my life more difficult than it had to be. After I turned the TV off and sat down for a moment to be with my thoughts, I realized just how pervasive this kind of thinking is, for me and for many other people, I’m sure. Any time we perceive that something has gone wrong, this is one of the first places many of us go. “Why me?” and “Who’s to blame?” The anger or frustration sets in and then those emotions are fueled and maintained by a constant stream of self-victimizing thoughts.
Let us start by focusing for a moment on your statement “Any time we perceive that something has gone wrong…” This is where your notion, your feeling, of being a victim of the Universe, begins. Do you see? It all starts with this distorted perception of what and how your experience should manifest during the course of your day. Like you, most humans have a clear set idea within their own minds of what their day should or should not look and feel like. This idea might be unconscious or unexplored, but it is this mindset that defines the default emotional responses that form the bulk of your experience of life. Generally, life is seen as something that happens to you. When something “good” happens, things are fine and OK, at least temporarily, until, as you humans like to say, “the other shoes drops.” To put it another way, things are great until they are not so great, and usually, things are not always that great. Over time, your ego mind instills within you an expectation of circumstances that will trigger a feeling of victimhood, an inaccurate and misguided self-identification that generates experiences that you would otherwise prefer to avoid, but which you have come to accept as a “fact of life.”
Where does all of this self-victimizing come from?
From those who have preceded you in life. During your early development from your parents, from your teachers and other adult figures in your life. As you have grown and matured, from your friends, your co-workers, virtually everyone that you come in contact with. Like yourself, they have all been taught from an early age that life is filled with unavoidable trouble and heartache and mistakes and missteps and calamities and all sorts of difficult circumstances that must be overcome or endured for the sake of a happy life, which will never really be completely happy because you will always be called upon to deal with all sorts of unavoidably difficult circumstances. Do you see the trap that this type of mindset sets for you? It has created, among other things, a culture of self-victimization that permeates the lives of almost every human person, all eager to blame God or each other for the ills that come their way. It is not so much that few want to take responsibility for their own experiences, but that few even realize that they ARE responsible for their own experiences. As we have said many, many times before, it is primarily the ego that spreads and reinforces these ideas in an effort to keep you and all other humans in a position of powerlessness, and no position is more powerless than that of the victim. In the case of your recent experience with a technological glitch in your TV service, you were faced with a situation in which you felt powerless. You tried everything you could to fix what was “wrong,” and when that did not work, you felt victimized by the Universe, telling yourself that, when it comes to technology, nothing goes your way, so what’s the point.
So, in moments like these, is there an affirmation or even just a word that we could use to help shift our perspective away from this kind of self-victimization?
Creator.
Creator. Yes, of course. Creator. Because that is who we really are. Creators.
Indeed. “I am a creator. I created this. No one else. It is not exactly what I want to experience at this moment, because it is not making me very happy, but here it is, nonetheless, and the best choice I can make for myself right now is to acknowledge and take responsibility for what I have created in this moment, regardless of whether or not my ego mind labels it good or bad.” Granted, this is not always an easy choice to make, but it is a choice, made with increasing frequency, that will lead you to a place of remembrance, and that, after all, is why you are here. In the case of your technological glitch, you were the creative force behind your experience. It came from you. Your vibration attracted it. It just so happens that while the experience you created for yourself was not something that you necessarily wanted, it was something that you actually expected, perhaps not in that exact moment and perhaps not consciously, but eventually.
Yes, you’re right. I think that’s why I’m always having these technological glitches. Because even when things go well for a while and there are no problems, I assume that something will go wrong because something ALWAYS goes wrong, eventually.
What we would like you to understand is that there is no right, there is no wrong, there is only experience, created by you. How you judge that experience is up to you. We are not saying that it is easy for you to see a situation, like a serious physical injury for example, as something valuable that you have created for yourself, but it is possible, is it not? Perhaps not in the moment, but eventually, when the dust has cleared, so to speak. How you view your own experience is at the crux of the work that all humans are doing right now, and ideally, that means seeing yourself and your experience through the non-judgmental eyes of Source. That is why it is so important in a situation as relatively minor as a technological glitch to stop as soon as you realize what you are doing, as soon as you hear yourself self-victimizing, to take the opportunity to affirm for yourself who you really are and take responsibility for your own creation. You are not a victim. You have never been a victim. Regardless of what others tell you, of what you tell yourself, regardless of what you believe, you can never be a victim because that is not who you really are. You are a creator and a creator is not a victim. A creator creates his or her own experiences. That is what you do, whether you are consciously aware of it or not. So, take each and every opportunity, no matter how small, to remind yourself of who you really are, that you are a part of Source, a part of the energetic consciousness that has created the Universe, and that is what you have always been and always will be. A creator.
I think we will stop there for today.
Until next time, then.
Thank you all.
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