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Are you there?

Yes, we are here.

In the last post, we began a discussion on the nature of the ego. Since then, I have been thinking about the power of the ego in our lives and it made me wonder what we can do to combat its effect.

First, we would caution against use of the word “combat.” When you are considering ways of dealing with the ego and its machinations, it is best not to think in warlike terms. You can battle the ego if you like, if that is your choice and you enjoy exercises in futility, but as you may already know, what you resist, persists. In other words, when you push against something that you do not want, whether it is a thought or an emotion or any type of external experience, you only increase its power over you and consequently bring more of what you don’t want into your experience. Bearing this in mind, you would perhaps not want to think in terms of “battling” the ego.

How then should we approach the problems created by the ego?

You can start by shifting your focus elsewhere. As we said last time, the ego likes nothing more than your attention. If you actually allow yourself to believe that you ARE your own ego, and that is the case with most human persons, so much the better from the ego’s point of view. So, the best way to deal with the ego is by focusing on its opposite, which is LOVE. And that includes love in all of its forms – peace, contentment, joy, passion, enthusiasm, optimism – the list goes on and on.

How do we do that?

By looking. By really looking at your life for the presence of love. And when you find love, when you FEEL love, keeping your attention on it. Every experience that you have in your daily life is an opportunity to remember who you really are. And the way to do that is to look for your divine self in every situation. Look for love everywhere you go.

Just to be clear, you are not speaking here of earthly, romantic love, are you?

That is a good point, thank you, and no we are not. At least not in the way you are thinking. Instead, what we speak of is unconditional love. Love without expectation, love without the need for anything in return, love without conditions and without the presence of ego. This love we speak of is pure, eternal, and it comes directly from Source, just like you.

OK. So, when you say that every experience is an opportunity to remember who you really are, what do you mean exactly?

We mean that every experience you have, each and every moment in your daily life, has the potential for a loving experience. That may not always seem the case, especially when the circumstances you find yourself in are dark and frightening. But ALL human experiences contain both light and dark, love and fear. And it is your job, your mission, to focus on the part that shines with the light of love. That is one way in which you can remember who you really are. When you can see your divine loving nature reflected back to you in any situation, then you have found what you came for.

That seems like a very lofty ambition.

Of course it is! Why shouldn’t your ambition be lofty? You are an expansive being of infinite love, so again, we encourage you to think beyond your own earthly limitations and seek something more, something beyond who you think you are. Trust us. You are a creature of unlimited capacity who can more than meet this challenge.

Keep saying it and perhaps I will eventually believe it.

Why do you think we are here with you now, sharing this journey with you? To help you remember who you really are. And that is what we will do to the best of our abilities as often as we can. At the same time, you too must work the program, so to speak, from the perspective of the physical plane. And one way to do that is to affirm for yourself the idea that each and every moment of your day contains the potential for discovering love. This is not some rose-colored-glasses notion. It is real, it is how everything has been set up, how everything is intended to work. By looking for and finding love in your everyday experience, you help the Universe to expand and grow. How is that for lofty?

Yes, that is plenty lofty enough for me. Still, in the course of your day, when you are experiencing one bad thing after another, it is hard to remember that buried somewhere beneath an awful experience lies the potential for love.

We didn’t say it was easy. That is why it takes many, many earthly lifetimes to achieve this state of being. But it is possible, and it starts by your taking a look at the small events in your life. Do not try tackle everything all at once. Start by looking at the discrete moments in your life and shift your perspective when you can, when you remember. Ask yourself this: Who am I in this situation? Am I the irritable curmudgeon waiting in line at the check-out counter? Am I the stressed-out worker bee trying to stay on top of a mountain of paperwork? Am I the overwhelmed single mom or dad doing their best to raise their kids and keep their finances afloat? These are just a few examples of situations where the ego can rise quickly to the top. And while we understand that most of the time you will identify with the victim inside you, and that the ego-driven part of you that asks ”Why am I being treated this way? Why don’t they appreciate me? How did I find myself in such a difficult situation?” will continue to dominate your thoughts, there will come a moment when you are able to achieve some distance and some perspective, and where you can say to yourself, “You know what? It’s OK. Everything is fine. I’ll just take a deep breath, relax, and remind myself that I can tap into my inner resources of love at any time and allow my fear to subside.” This moment may not last for very long, perhaps for only a few seconds, but it will start to shift your entire point of view about life and who you really are.

This has been a lot to take in, so I suggest we stop here.

As you wish. Until next time.

Thank you all.

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